DEAR CAROLYN: I’m 38 and involved with a same-age man. We are in love and it’s the kind of relationship that has shown me everything that was missing from prior relationships. We’ve been dating for just shy of six months and are starting to discuss living together, which would also be a first.

DEAR CAROLYN: I am a 33-year-old single mom with an 8-year-old son. I have sole custody of my son, but by state law I cannot move more than 60 miles away from my son’s father.

My widowed-for-20-years father is having an “accidental” child with a woman my age. He is an extremely poor communicator (I got that particular gift from him), and repeatedly denied he was even dating this woman when we asked him, point-blank.

DEAR CAROLYN: I have a 5-year-old nephew who is starting kindergarten. He is a fantastic little boy who likes “boy” things like cars and Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, but he really likes many “girl” things like Doc McStuffins, Minnie Mouse and My Little Pony. He is the most interesting 5-year-old boy I know.

DEAR CAROLYN: My husband and I are expecting our first child. We have been receiving a lot of family pressure to name him after my uncle “Ben.” Ben suffered from severe depression and bipolar disorder his entire life; two years ago he committed suicide.

I’ve struggled with depression and self-injury (among other things) for years, and I recently had a wake-up call that I needed to change things. Instead of going back to college this fall, I’ll be taking a leave of absence and going into an in-patient treatment center to get better.

While I’m away, readers give the advice.

While I’m away, readers give the advice.

The matriarch of my wife’s family (their father died years before) was going blind and needed a cornea transplant in order to save her sight. Not having the funds, her extended family came together in a potluck reunion during which they auctioned off items (to each other) created by each family or individual, and the money went to a well-known eye clinic in support their mother’s surgery.

DEAR CAROLYN: I read your piece about the girlfriend who forbids her boyfriend to talk to other girls. I agree this seems like abusive, controlling behavior.

DEAR CAROLYN: I am a 32-year-old woman who has been dating a wonderful man for a little over a year. We are now making lifelong plans together, starting with the process of looking for a new home to move into together.



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