Q: Our 17-year-old son is flunking his junior year in high school. Flunking is not a possibility; it is a definite, a done deal. He has passed the point where he could turn this around. He's very intelligent and made reasonably good grades until his sophomore year. He's not depressed in the least, he doesn't do drugs or drink, has lots of friends (all of whom are going to be seniors next year), and his teachers all like him despite his poor performance. He participates in class discussion but does not complete assignments and doesn't study for tests. The school said they could promote him if we agree to have him classified as a "special needs" child (as in ADHD) who needs accommodations, but we refused. So, he doesn't have enough credits to be a senior and will have to repeat most of his junior classes. We are at wits end. He wants to go to summer school where he can make up some if not most of the classes he flunked, but we have plans for the summer and aren't about to make the whole family sacrifice because of his irresponsibility. He responds by threatening to drop out of school and go into the Army. We hope you have some ideas we haven't thought about or already tried.