Long story short, she started seeing another guy while seeing me. I found out and we broke up.
After being broken up for three months, we started talking. Hashing things out. She told me that her dad never wanted to meet me because I wasn’t good enough, and that she started seeing that, too.
It just seems like such a left-field thing for her to say. I can understand that her dad may think this, he’s never met me. But my girlfriend thinks this way now, too?
Maybe I am just naive, but love should be judged on a person’s heart, not their wallet. Am I wrong?
But you are naive to think this belief applies to her. (Two years, no meeting Dad. Missed sign?) Your girlfriend found someone else, and the rest is just words and justifications and, I suspect, excuses.
Think of it this way: If she agrees with Daddy about judging you by anything besides your character, then that’s deplorable. That she would tell you this is even more so. If instead she doesn’t agree with her father but is appeasing him, then that’s just weak. (And telling you, deplorable.)
So, yes, do judge love by a person’s heart – and see that, unless she does some tough work on her priorities, her heart isn’t worthy of yours.
I let the mother know I may need to bring the baby, but that he’s quite happy napping or hanging out in a carrier at this age. My investigation of sitters fell flat.
The response I received from my friend’s mother was rather rude: that she hoped I found an alternative since babies steal the limelight and the focus should be on the mother-to-be. I do understand the sentiment. But ... really? How does she expect me to respond? Not to go?
Har. Just bring your baby, shrug and say you struck out on sitters, and count on babies large and small to make do.