I really want to go visit, but my husband keeps saying he can’t get off work and the trip is too expensive. Well, he gets off work for four or five days to do other things with no problem, and we have plenty of air miles and money.
He does phone Grandma every night, which is great, but that doesn’t take the place of an actual visit.
I could go on my own, but Grandma might feel awful if her daughter-in-law comes to visit and son doesn’t bother. I can’t very well ask her: “Gee, Grandma, would you like to see me even if your son can’t/won’t come?”
You can’t make him stop being willfully dense or negligent, but you can decline to allow his cowardice to govern you both; you have your own bond with her, after all.
At least, I hope you can; you’re all running out of days to make this right. Please don’t waste any more.
However, my son has asked to only invite his father, as the divorce is pretty nasty and he does not want this toxic environment in our home during his special time. I plan to do what my son requests, as this is his graduation.
She and my son keep in touch and she wants to be at the graduation. What should I do, not send an invitation or call her to discuss?
He’s not 10, he’s an adult now. Snubbing his stepmother is the injury; letting Mommy do the excluding for him is the insult. He needs to call his stepmother himself.