After almost two years, he broke up with me and immediately started dating others, settling in with one quickly.
Now, seven months later, he says he is still in love with me and wants to talk about getting back together. The problem is he won’t break up with his current girlfriend or tell her he’s talking to me.
He doesn’t want to risk losing her in case we decide we can’t work things out, but I feel it’s unethical to talk behind her back. Is there a way forward for us?
If he’ll dehumanize one person to serve his own selfish desires, then he’ll dehumanize you – if not in this exact way, then in some other way that serves his needs at the time.
Give yourself a gift: Tell him stringing people along is despicable and stop taking his calls.
Forward only works if you’re not pointed toward a ditch.
She told me my friend who did an Ironman race must have obsessive compulsive disorder because all people who participate in Ironmans do.
She gave my husband a book for Christmas about introverts because she thinks he is one.
I truly think she is unaware of how she comes across. She thinks these are real observations she is making and that her assessments are completely true. What can I say to let her know that her perceptions do not translate to universal truths?
I realize your sister’s labeling habit inevitably veers into one -ist or another, with side trips into “judgmental” and “cuckoo bird.” This will sometimes hurt, offend or just mystify others, which in turn would affect her socially.
But seeing it as your responsibility to break her of this habit risks turning you into a milder version of her.
Stick to case-by-case responses to opinions you find problematic. If you’re close enough you can cut straight to: “You do realize how bonkers that sounds, right?” Otherwise, play it straight: “If someone tagged my ethnicity based on X behavior, I’d find that offensive.”