However, I’m not sure if staying with him is the best decision for me. He was diagnosed with ADHD and oppositional defiant disorder (ODD) as a child, and I feel as though this is really detrimental to our relationship.
He gets annoyed and frustrated extremely easily, which often leads to a fight in which he gets very angry, and tends to hit or throw things (though I am 100 percent sure he would never touch me, he only throws and hits things like pillows).
I grew up in a very peaceful household where there was never any violence, so dealing with his anger is totally foreign and scary to me.
I know these are symptoms of his ADHD and whatever adult ODD is or becomes, but I am at a loss of what to do. He has taken medication off and on in the past but doesn’t like how it makes him feel. I don’t want to leave him but I can’t imagine a future with both him and these symptoms.
What do you suggest?
We can stop here, but I won’t, because:
Then, as you assess the result, don’t flinch.