I got caught cheating on my wife two years ago. I am in “recovery,” as I really have a problem being faithful.
Confession … she is doing a good job! This could end badly. Help!
If it’s recovery, the real deal, then you already know the only chance your marriage has is the truth – that and a redoubling of your effort at whatever treatment you sought two years ago. You tell your wife immediately what’s going on with her “friend” (get it?), because said friend is already stirring the pot and your passivity equals permission.
If instead you’re in quote-unquote-recovery – if your marriage isn’t a commitment so much as prowlus interruptus – then that’s what you need to admit, first to yourself and then to your wife.
Either way, make this not about monogamy for the sake of it, but about living honestly as who you really are.
As a longer-term solution, it’s also reasonable to redefine “informed.” Yes, there’s value in following world news, especially at election time for national offices – but I can argue the most effective citizens are the ones who focus their attention within reach of their influence.
If you’re equipped to make a difference globally, then do. If you aren’t, then consider zooming in locally – region, state, county, town, block. Since every level needs caring, responsible, informed people on duty, and since helplessness is what overwhelms us most, give help fulness a chance. That is, after some much needed rest.