Adapted from a recent online discussion:
What is the best way to be a supportive friend in this situation? I don’t have children myself, and all of my previously pregnant friends have been excited about their pregnancies – even as they expressed reasonable reservations about childbirth, never sleeping again, the usual.
I don’t want to minimize her concerns by saying she’ll be excited once she feels the kick/finds out the gender/whatever.
For what it is worth, she is a great person and I am 100 percent confident she will be an awesome mother, but that doesn’t necessarily mean she will be a happy mother.
Her misgivings are normal, but to many they’re also taboo, so she might feel uncomfortable sharing them again. Even those friends who were excited about their pregnancies could also have had doubts they didn’t express. Ambivalence can seem like the third rail of pregnancy, so make sure your friend knows you’re a safe place to talk.
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