DEAR CAROLYN: I’m 40 with a wonderful family and fulfilling career. Occasionally I am consumed with regret for past behavior. In middle school, there was a boy who was different (a disability; thick glasses; blue collar in a neighborhood of professionals). The students were not kind to this boy. Neither was I. I never engaged in any active teasing, but I ignored him as much as possible. We used to “spray for cooties” and every time I had to touch something he had touched, I “sprayed”! I think I felt so out-of-place myself that I thought if I associated with him at ALL I would also be targeted.
DEAR CAROLYN: This summer, as a favor to my recently divorced sister-in-law, my husband (her brother) and I agreed to take her 13-year-old daughter for three weeks. My sister-in-law surprised us by delivering her daughter and another 13-year-old to “keep her company.” We buckled down and welcomed the girls, took them on summer adventures, introduced them to neighborhood kids, met all their needs.
DEAR CAROLYN: Whenever I am at a party with my wife’s girlfriend, she flirts with me. No … not flirt; groping and teasing is a better description. Sticking her hands in my back pockets, grabbing my butt. First time it happened was when I showed up at a party without my wife, and she said, “I am so glad you are here alone!”
Sacramento's slavic community - largest in the nation - celebrates a quarter century in the U.S> this weekend.