While I’m away, readers give the adviceOn the agony of the bombshell:
Eventually, I realized she was indeed both blessed and cursed. I had good women friends where she did not. When she turned about 50, she decided she was losing her looks (she wasn’t). Although she was smart, funny, capable and talented, she saw herself only as beautiful and pined away. Her life was lived in one dimension.
– Bombshell’s Daughter
A long-ago subordinate (a woman; I’m a guy) was an ex-model. I wouldn’t wish that on anyone.
The comments, back-biting and sabotage by envious women were disturbing. And unstoppable, at least by me.
Women peers reported that the ex-model spent a remarkable amount of time prior to every meeting in front of a mirror prepping herself, fixing hair and reapplying makeup. While some men viewed her as beautiful, an equal number didn’t seem to notice.
In retrospect, I think her life was awful. She must have assumed her career success was dependent on looks, something nonsustainable.
– C.On going to reunions despite a painful school experience (or: Bombshell Agony, continued):
Keep in mind that “it’s not over until it’s over.” One of our “Senior Beauties” came up to me, the class nerd, at a reunion and said, “I always envied you in school.” ( Me?) “You were admired for your brain, and I was just a pretty face.”
Healing is possible, but you have to decide to be a part of it.
– R.On complaining about your weight around others:
I want to write a book called “How to Have an Eating Disorder Without Being a Total Jerk” because, judging from the Internet, a lot of people don’t know how.
It’s the height of insensitivity to say, “Ughhh I’m so fat” because people ultimately compare themselves to you and then you’re dragging them down with you and everyone feels bad.